Dear Birthmother,

Hello, 

It is said that wonderful things come from the least expected places.  I can only imagine that you, like myself, never dreamed or expected as a child that you would be in this place.  I always pictured myself being married, having a family. Although someday I hope to have a husband, at this time in my life I realize that I don’t have to have a husband to have a child.

I believe that together we can realize both our dreams, yours to find a loving family for your child and mine to bring a child into my loving family.   It is through our courage and convictions that we will prevail.  You are displaying the most courage one should ever be asked to.  And as you read my letter I hope you will see that my conviction to have a child is as strong as one can imagine.  Don’t be scared, you can feel safe knowing who your child will be with.  I will love your child as my own.

About Me

I am a single woman living in Marin County, California. My house is located only 20 minutes from San Francisco yet it has the feeling of a country home. I purchased my home 10 years.  It is a very cute little cottage on a hillside. I am financially stable and can well provide for a child.  I will own my home in 12 years.

I have a wonderful career in San Francisco planning corporate events.  This allows me to experience many types of people, races, financial backgrounds and cultural activities. I work with groups as small as 40 and as large as 3000 people.  I organize beautiful corporate parties at places like The San Francisco Asian Art Museum and the Museum of Modern Art.  Another part of my job is to organize private Corporate Tours of San Francisco.  I love exposing people to San Francisco. 

I received a Bachelor degree in Communication at San Diego State University.  I was born and raised in San Francisco, California with one sister.  While I have only one sibling I feel like I was raised in a large family.   My mother and father were both working parents but my sister and I were always with family and cousins.  I believe it is because of this that family is singly the most important thing to me.  Being raised in a loving very close family has given me a sense of security and confidence that I will undoubtedly pass onto my child. 

My sister and I were also competitive swimmers from age 8 to 17 years.  Swimming gave us a built in family offriends.  Every morning and every evening we swam for two hours!  Of course most weekends were spent at swim meets.  Both of our rooms had a whole wall of ribbons we had won over the course of all the years.  Since swimming took so much of our time we didn’t have time to get into trouble during high school.

Between the positive influence of playing in a sport and the incredible communication between my family both my sister and I received good grades and stayed out of trouble as teenagers. My family has also brought the most joy to me by teaching me that in giving you receive.

I am 7th generation San Francisco Bay Area born.  My mother has 7 sisters and 2 brothers. My father has 5 sisters and 2 brothers.  Often on Saturday afternoons as many as 10 people show up at my Grandmothers house to visit and have lunch.  I believe I am very lucky to have a family that really enjoys getting together.  Every other year we have an extended family reunion and have over 100 family membersattend.  On any given holiday we have atleast 30-40 people.  The house is full of people, newbornsto 87 yearsold, talking, laughing, playing and eating.  My friends love to be invited over – and they are always welcome.  They too want to be available as aunties and uncles to my child.

My sister is married to a French man and has 4 beautiful children.  They live in France but visit California about 2 months of the year.  I travel to France every other year to visit with them.  My sister and I began traveling to Europe when we were just 16 and 17 years old.  Since then we have visited over 12 different countries.

My Interests

Other than my family, my passions lie in the outdoors.  Some of the things I love to do are camping, skiing and hiking. Every year I take a camping vacation with my friends.  We play in the lake and the river, have great campfires and take wonderful hikes through the Redwood trees. I think I love to camp because as a child we campedevery year. Several of my cousins and their parents would camp together.  I can remember playing in the lake, getting to have an ice cream, going out in a row boat.

I also love to travel.  My most recent trip was to Costa Rica with two girlfriends.  There we hiked through the jungle, saw Monkeys in the wild, danced Salsa, kayaked – so many wonderful fun things! It is important to me that my child grows up experiencing the outdoors and other Countries because exploring the world gives me a sense that I can be anyone and do anything I would like.  I hope to pass that feeling onto my child so I will continue to explore new places with my child. 

I have a strong connection with the Catholic Church.  While I no longer attend mass regularly I was raised with the values as a Roman Catholic and would like to baptize my baby. Some of the values that I believe were passed to me through the Catholic Church are to respect others, to always try to do the right thing and to have faith, hope, and charity.                                   

As A Mother

My child will not grow up as an only child.  I will raise my child as I was raised, around all of his/her cousins, aunts and uncles.  I will provide a safe environment in which growth and the love of life will triumph.  We will go to parks and puppet shows. We will color and play with play-doh.  We will have birthday parties at the zoo.  We will play in the ocean together.  All of these things we will do with friends and family.

As a working mother I believe I will be a good role model to my child. My mother was fortunate to retire early and is in the best of health both mentally and physically. She lives only 10 minutes away from me and is eager to help care for my baby while I am at work.  I also have a line of family members waiting to care for and love my child.

The bond of a mother and child can never be replaced. You will always be the birthmother of your child.  It is important that your child understands his/her birth story and realizes that your decision was only out of the love you have for him/her. I understand this and would welcome continued contact with you. 

If you would like to meet or speak with me please call me at 1-877-LUV-MOMY(1 877.588.6669). Or contact my adoption attorney Adams and Romer at 1 800 U-ADOPT-US (1.800.823.6788)

Wishing you well in your decision,

Cynthia